err…so I was snooping around, wondering, confused and wandering, a coupla days ago when I came cross this beautiful piece written by my bard… it was too apt and too good not to sh-air and/or subsequently steal!!! (truth is I got exclusive publishing rights…yippieeee!!!)
You may have heard it preached or probably read the verse of the scripture that says, ”love your neighbour as yourself”. In the explanation that follows that portion of the scripture, Jesus told a parable that showed that a neighbour is whoever is in need of our help. A neighbour can therefore be anybody irrespective of whether they are in a relationship with us or not.
So love can be expressed both within the context of a relationship or without. Relationship in this sense may be of any form – friendship, marriage, work, and so on.
What actually does love entail? What does it mean?
So many questions have been asked in the past about what love is. Yet we still do not comprehend what this four letter ‘word’, ‘phrase’ ‘command’ is all about.
Some of us say it is a feeling that you have not felt before. Some of us say it is a decision.
But really what is love?
In 1 Corinthians 13 Paul gave an insight into what love is.
- love is patient and kind.
- love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
- love does not demand its own way.
- love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.
- love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
- love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
- love will last forever!
So when the bible says, love your neighbour as yourself, it is saying that,
- be patient with and kind to your neighbour
- do not be jealous of, or boastful or proud or rude to your neighbour
- do not demand your own way in your dealings with your neighbour
- do not keep record of being wronged or be irritable by your neighbour
- do not rejoice about injustice but rejoice whenever the truth wins out
- do not give up hope on your neighbour
And if the bible says that love lasts forever and that it endures every circumstance, (knowing full well that as human beings, our feelings change according to our circumstances…)
Love cannot be a feeling. QED
The key to understanding love is hidden in this phrase, ‘love…’endures through every circumstance.” – Endure is the verb of the noun ”endurance.”
- The dictionary defines endurance as power. So we can say that love is a form of power.
Remember the bible says that it endures every circumstance. Love is a form of power that will enable you do what you will naturally not want to do under a particular circumstance. For example, the natural man does not want to be kind or patient to anyone but he wants people to be kind to him.
- Love can now be said to be the ability to treat others the way you want to be treated even when the circumstance is not right.
Abraham is no doubt a great man. He was called the friend of God. His story gave me an understanding of what love is about. The bible records in Genesis 13 that Lot had become so rich to the extent that the land was too small for him and Abraham that there had begun a strife between their staff.
Abraham, not minding the fact that he was the older and the richer of the two, called for a truce meeting. And even though he had the right to choose whatever land he wanted because his blessings actually rubbed on Lot, didn’t do that but told Lot to choose first and that he would be contented with whatever was left. I am not sure what you will call that!
Do you love your friends? Do you love your wife? Do you love people around you? Do you love your family? If you said, ”yes” to any or all of those questions. Think about this, ”will you rather they take the first prize in a race while you settle for second place?” If you answer is “no” then you do not love them as you claimed. (oops, my bard…err my bad!)
At a point in his life, Smith Wigglesworth had fallen out of steps with God to the extent that he detested his wife, Polly’s consistent visit to church. Smith decided one night that he was going to teach her the lesson of her life. When Polly had gone to church, Smith locked the door and went to bed. Early in the morning Smith opened the door and was shocked to see his wife wrapped in a blanket and lying against the door. Immediately Polly jumped up beaming him a smile said, “good morning, what will you have for breakfast?” and rushed to the kitchen to fix her husband breakfast. That singular act brought Smith Wigglesworth back to Christ and he went on to be a great preacher. I can’t really tell what you call that!
I wonder why it is so easy to blurt out, ”I love you”. It makes me wonder what pain you bore for the other person that qualifies you to say that? Jesus asked Peter if he loved him and Peter replied in the affirmative. Jesus told him to feed and tend his sheep because it is service that will show whether Peter loved Jesus or not. It is easy for us to see the love of a mother for her child what with the nine months of carry the child in her tummy. It is easy for us to see the love of a father for his family what with the labouring day and night to feed them.
The world has got a ‘me-first’ culture. It is what the bible calls the lust of the eyes, the pride of life and the lust of the flesh. It is actually the cause of every problem plaguing the world. Taking up the ‘me-first’ culture will be detrimental to whatever relationship in which you find yourself. There is a way that seems right to a man but the end is destruction.
It seems right to the Yorubas to say ti fo ba fun were ni oko, odo re ni o ma ro si (even if you give a mad man a hoe he will weed to himself)
In conclusion . . . this is love – QED!!!
***original article stolen from my bard – “Dhotun Dee*Hawt DeeBard D-dot Kom” – all other literary rights reserved, LOL.