When Jesus talked about dying, Peter took Him aside and began to rebuke Him. Real friends rebuke, in private. But blessed are those who get to hear the full details aka “fools deTales” before running off at their mouths, publicly or privately. That said, “Open rebuke is better than hidden love”
About a year ago, I asked God to show me my friends because I needed to declutter my life and consolidate for 2018 (and beyond).
“Two deaths” occurred.
A death in the ‘family’ always ultimately reveals a lot (about friends and family). Although saddened by these deaths, I am grateful for answered prayer. I learnt a few “Lessons in Leadership (and Friendships) from the life of Jesus Christ” – during that time.
- (Jesus, Judas): Not everyone with you is for you. Jesus had 12 disciples. Of these, there was Judas, who betrayed him. Nevermind that it was prewritten of Judas. (Please) Just pay attention to diss-Tale.
- (James and John): Never trust people who want power – (Their motives are always questionable and ultimately impure) – James and John wanted to sit, one at the right and one at the left of Jesus. In addition, they also asked Jesus to call down fire to destroy some people. The thirst for power corrupts and destroys (friendships and relationships).
- (Luke and Matthew): Ignorance is expensive. Choose professionals and learned people. Of the 12, there was a Doctor, and a Tax Collector. Everyone is a leader in their area of functioning.
- (The Twelve): To be a successful leader, choose your own team. Jesus did, Moses did, that’s how leadership works. There’s a place for volunteers, it is not for a position as sensitive or as important as leadership. Leaders are hand picked; chosen; selected; appointed.
- (Observe): For leadership roles, you need a solid track record, you need men of character; proven and tested*** We learn in adversity, things we would never learn in prosperity.
- (Peter, James, John): Not everyone is meant to be in every circle of your life – Of the 12, there were 3 inner circle disciples; James, John, Peter. Of these, Peter was deemed, the Rock. These men were tested and tried, and ultimately Peter was chosen.
- (The Pressure Test): When the guards came to arrest Jesus, all the other disciples fled but Peter. Peter literally laid his life down for Jesus. And it was Peter, protective of the Master, who cut off the ear of one of the guards. He aimed for the neck but got the ear. Jesus could have prevented that from happening, but He allowed it to happen, in a bid to test something in Peter. He ultimately fixed the ear.
- (Motives): When Peter denied Jesus, it was because he wanted to remain in the courtroom to watch the proceedings. He denied Jesus not to protect himself, but to have a reason to remain in the courtyard with Jesus. (God looks at the heart, motives always matter).
- (Jesus): Forgiveness is Key. The ability and capacity to overlook an offence, forgive a grievance, and focus on the big picture is very key in leadership. Forgive. Allow Judas to kill himself on the grounds of a weak conscience but as far as it lies with you, forgive. Take the high road when mf’s go low.
- (PS) There’s always a back story. Aka a purpose, a motive, a reason. Especially when you simi-nly don’t gerrit.
May the souls of the departed rest in peace! Amen